Work and studying for exam is très stressful. Fingers crossed for June and then we are so painting all of Lagos pink.
Soooo... One of my colleagues was giving me some gist yesterday about his friend and I decided to share the story. Here it goes:
A guy, lets call him Brian, met a girl in NYSC camp. This girl is from a distinguished and quite prominent Lagos family, and the guy well grew up less privileged. After some serious wooing by the guy they started dating, and over time the girl fell head-over-heels in love.
Post-service year, the girl got a good paying job, quite good by all standards, however the guy was unable to get a job, seeing Nigeria as it is.
Obviously she, with the help of her family, secured him some interviews but they never worked out.
For the first four years the girl supported her boyfriend, got him a flat, paid for their vacations, and they were the ideal couple, displaying their love on social media. Brian put her picture perpetually as his display picture. Life was good, the guy proposed and they picked a intro for 3 months and wedding 9 months after hoping and praying the guy will get a job by then and they wouldn't have to rely on her family.
A month after introduction, prayers got answered! The girl's aunt hooked Brian up with an interview and he got a job at a bank. Six months into working, with his babes help he changed his car, and omo boy started looking all fresh.
You would think this is where the story goes and they lived happily ever after right? Well not quite. With a new car, new job and money landing in his bank account every month, he stopped needing the girl's help. And, unfortunately Brian started noticing all the 20-year old small yellow girls with big ass, short skirts and heels all around his office.
One month to the wedding, one month o, Brian cancelled the wedding invite they both sent on Facebook. When the babe's friend called her during a meeting saying "babe there was a mistake o, your book cancelled an the wedding invite sent on facebook", girl was just like "oh he's always sitting on his damn phone". Girl picked the phone to call Brian expecting to hear sorry baby it was a mistake. Well............... nope, no error there. Mr I just got me a job and looking fresh-Brian told babe he was calling off the wedding! Girl was like how, why, no fights, we are great. Well they weren't great according to Brian, he said he had been unhappy for the last five years, and that apparently three months into their relationship he realised she is not the kind of woman he sees himself marrying, because her family looks down on me.
Same family that got him a job, and through them literally survived for over four years? and he's just coming to that comclusion one month to the wedding.
FIVE YEARS! one month to wedding! Invites everywhere! And they say babes be going crazy. Jesus se you are watching these people!.
Anyways that brings me to my point, is it worth growing up and going all through thick and thin with someone. I am not particularly one-sided to think its just men that are selfish, people generally are selfish and self serving, they can overlook all your flaws when they need you, but once they believe they can self sustain or have other options they forget all you have been through. I have heard of a babe some guy sponsored to Uni and she thought she was too "learned" for him after so she dumped him.
So I just judge people who can't do the long term investment even though I respect people who still can. Ultimately my opinion is, we should only give (what we can afford and doesn't break your account or back) out of love instead of what we can get back. Love is giving and love is kind, if he/she leaves you after all you do, he/she doesn't and couldn't ever have loved you, you deserve better, and karma always has a way.
Prince charming is on the way.
