Teaching an old dog new tricks

"To serve an unintelligent man is like crying in the wilderness, massaging the body of a dead man, planting water-lilies on dry land, whispering in the ear of the deaf" —Panchatantra
Similes Dictionary, 1st Edition. © 1988 The Gale Group, Inc

Have you ever been in one of those relationships where you wait for someone to change?

I once waited years for someone I loved to grow up and change. He never did, and when I'd had enough, our relationship ended. It's interesting to me because it was only after our breakup that he seemed to get himself together, become more mature, more open, just a better person all-round. I was left wondering, why couldn't he have been like that when we were together!

If you are stuck waiting for someone to change when you find they might not, it might really just be you are not the person they are meant to change for. This by no means makes you not the greatest person in the world, it just means its not meant to be.

The only person that can change someone is themselves. Perhaps you should look towards figuring out how to improve your life in other ways. One can not inflict a change upon another person they have to do that for themselves.

You deserve better than waiting around for someone and while some people will be brazen enough to ask you to wait, often these are decisions you make off your own back because you’re ignoring vital information, have decided you know better and prefer your fantasy.

Waiting means avoiding experiencing a ‘fail fail‘ or a ‘rejection rejection’. The longer you wait, the crappier you feel and the harder it is to stop waiting because you then reason that so much time has passed that to stop waiting now would be waste of all the previous time spent waiting and you feel like you have invested too much to stop.

While it will hurt to stop waiting, it’ll hurt a damn sight less than if you continue waiting and refuse to accept reality. You are better than being the person that they come back to after exhausting all other options. Don’t let them ‘settle’ for you after they discover that the grass is not greener on the other side.

John Lennon once said, “Life is what happens when you’re busy making other plans.” For me, life is what was happening while I was busy waiting for my big moment.

Have a good week.
xx

Who came up with the stupid word BAE

Been off here for a month, changing blogname after two weeks of starting was blog suicide, now the people who read are gone :(. Anyways, nobody there, but this is still like my little outburst journal.
It's a rant Monday

Woke up 8am on Saturday begrudgingly, knowing this weekend holds no fun for me. Oh BTW I passed my last exam, and while it is all honky dorry and exciting, it means I have to put my social life on hold to get through the next six extra large books within the next six months. Extra large, hmm, sounds like something else i'd rather be thinking of.

Alright so in the midst of all my doom at being stuck in the library while my bbm status was full of people looking fab wearing aso ebi and having fun, a message popped on my phone.

"What's up BAE?", and being in the difficult mood i was in i replied "wth is bae?" ... well the guy, who is my good friend, just ignored and probably couldn't deal with it.

But really though, what in God's name is bae, ain't we fine with babe, babe, boo, luv, honey, sweetheart (hate that one), and all this other cliche words, that we had to invent another one!

Some guy defined it best "The most fucking annoying way to say girlfriend, boyfriend, crush, or any other significant other. Commonly used by ghetto folks, swagfags, and annoying fucktads". OK maybe a bit extreme but still on the right lane!

Alright, #Notetoself, it's Monday, breathe in, won't get my panties in a twist about a stupid word, but for the fun of it, for all those of you who like the word bae, also means poop in danish.

Next time you decide to ditch the word baby and use bae, remember that, it's like typing what's happening smelly crappy shit. 

OK that made me feel better 

Totally off topic:

Mother's day was this weekend, sent my mom the cutest message, and she send me a not so cute, "looking forward to you being a mother soon". Thanks mamma, real subtle.